Tuesday, June 26, 2007
Sex
We are a repressed society. Liberal in name, not in thoughts nor morality. We have limited choice towards our own alignment to be good or bad. Can it not be said that some people at least are born to be evil? Must they force themselves to be good? Can we question whether being "good" is necessarily a natural form? Most choices like this are not given to us. The price to pay for a safe, harmonic and thriving society. Something like "The Matrix", where humans created machines to ensure their survival, at the cost of something more essential - choice.
One of the questions to pose, abstinence or contraceptions?
The importance of this lies in how each individual was brought up since birth. How does one choose abstinence or to practice safe sex (in terms outside of marriage, e.g premarital)? Talking about Malaysians , I'm quite sure most parents do not tell their teens in very clear terms whether to never have any premarital sex. Mostly, its just a vague idea of "don't do the wrong things" or "don't get (someone) pregnant before you're married" as soon as your parents find out that you're being close to someone of the opposite sex. Most probably, thats how their parents taught them as well. WELL, sex education arrives in the source of young boys talking excitedly of things they aren't really sure about (usually with one or two braggers) , the internet as well as various "academic papers" on the issue.
Society on the other hand, have a stronger say on this. Catholic churches and some other organization consider premarital sex as immoral. Buddhism has a vague view, which says abstinence against sexual misconduct (misconduct in Buddhism is often defined as that which brings harm to oneself, to others or to both oneself and others) but does not directly refer to premarital sex. On the overview, most people find the concept of a person being too liberal sexually as immoral. There's no well define line whether premarital sex is too liberal or not. As long as it doesn't raise any problems, people still practice it regardless of what society thinks. But if "accidents" happen, then expect a ruckus.
Its sort of hard to give a very profound moral choice of whether to practice abstinence or to practice safe sex. Sigmund Freud viewed sex as an important factor influencing everyday behaviour. That its a natural thing for humans past puberty to have a yearning for sex.
"Sexual education may thus be seen as providing individuals with the knowledge necessary to liberate themselves from socially organized sexual oppression and to make up their own minds. In addition, sexual oppression may be viewed as socially harmful." -http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_education
Another question about practicing premarital sex is - at what age is suitable for a person to have a sexual relationship? The issue here is how much maturity is needed to handle the responsibility of having sex, emotionally and mentally. Maturity is a factor that diverse from each individual. A 13 year old can have the thinking ability of a 25 years old, and vice versa. Who is to judge whether an individual is suitably matured? Whether that is still the choice of an individual or our friend - the oppressive society is hard to determine.
The morality of the act is also very much debatable. Is sex something that is immoral? Only to be done for the course of reproduction and never for pleasure? A question even great men cannot answer. It feels that to say no is to be a hypocrite and to say yes, immoral. One of the issues in the gray zone :P
What says you?
One of the questions to pose, abstinence or contraceptions?
The importance of this lies in how each individual was brought up since birth. How does one choose abstinence or to practice safe sex (in terms outside of marriage, e.g premarital)? Talking about Malaysians , I'm quite sure most parents do not tell their teens in very clear terms whether to never have any premarital sex. Mostly, its just a vague idea of "don't do the wrong things" or "don't get (someone) pregnant before you're married" as soon as your parents find out that you're being close to someone of the opposite sex. Most probably, thats how their parents taught them as well. WELL, sex education arrives in the source of young boys talking excitedly of things they aren't really sure about (usually with one or two braggers) , the internet as well as various "academic papers" on the issue.
Society on the other hand, have a stronger say on this. Catholic churches and some other organization consider premarital sex as immoral. Buddhism has a vague view, which says abstinence against sexual misconduct (misconduct in Buddhism is often defined as that which brings harm to oneself, to others or to both oneself and others) but does not directly refer to premarital sex. On the overview, most people find the concept of a person being too liberal sexually as immoral. There's no well define line whether premarital sex is too liberal or not. As long as it doesn't raise any problems, people still practice it regardless of what society thinks. But if "accidents" happen, then expect a ruckus.
Its sort of hard to give a very profound moral choice of whether to practice abstinence or to practice safe sex. Sigmund Freud viewed sex as an important factor influencing everyday behaviour. That its a natural thing for humans past puberty to have a yearning for sex.
"Sexual education may thus be seen as providing individuals with the knowledge necessary to liberate themselves from socially organized sexual oppression and to make up their own minds. In addition, sexual oppression may be viewed as socially harmful." -http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_education
Another question about practicing premarital sex is - at what age is suitable for a person to have a sexual relationship? The issue here is how much maturity is needed to handle the responsibility of having sex, emotionally and mentally. Maturity is a factor that diverse from each individual. A 13 year old can have the thinking ability of a 25 years old, and vice versa. Who is to judge whether an individual is suitably matured? Whether that is still the choice of an individual or our friend - the oppressive society is hard to determine.
The morality of the act is also very much debatable. Is sex something that is immoral? Only to be done for the course of reproduction and never for pleasure? A question even great men cannot answer. It feels that to say no is to be a hypocrite and to say yes, immoral. One of the issues in the gray zone :P
What says you?
posted by Clumsy at 7:17 AM, | 
2 Comments:
hehe...why would a person who doesn't take sides write something that promotes a side? :) Its not written for anyone in particular but anyone who's interested in reading it. I've had people called it shallow, and some who found it interesting and informative. I just accept with a smile.
I'm not writing to win an award.
My views are that people should think about things but come to their own conclusion (or non conclusion). I have no intention of imposing views on others or make a stand.
P.S. Don't be so critical..hehe..Life is not about coming to conclusions.
I'm not writing to win an award.
My views are that people should think about things but come to their own conclusion (or non conclusion). I have no intention of imposing views on others or make a stand.
P.S. Don't be so critical..hehe..Life is not about coming to conclusions.
In the end, I'm not sure I really see the point of the post? What exactly are you trying to say, or are they just random observations you made that you thought people would find interesting?
Pick a side. Then maybe I can read the post and end up not blinking and asking myself 'now what?'